Mel Robbins is an expert on leadership and defeating doubt, a motivational powerhouse, and the best-selling author of Stop Saying You’re Fine and The 5 Second Rule: Transform your Life, Work, and Confidence with Everyday Courage.
Nine years ago, things weren’t going quite as well for Mel. She lost her job, and she was on the verge of divorce and bankruptcy. As things started to go off the rails financially, her attitude, habits, and ability to cope followed. “It was a major crisis of confidence, of belonging, of career, of marriage… of everything.”
When we experience adversity, the problems can feel so overwhelming that we don’t know how to solve them… and, in those moments, we will fall back on our habits, good or bad.
If Mel had discovered The Five Second Rule earlier in life, she would have been equipped to respond to that adversity a little differently.
So how can we use The Five Second Rule to get past setbacks or disappointments?
The first thing you have to understand is that your whole life happens in five second windows.
Throughout your day, whether you’re flying high or down in the dumps, you’re making decisions… and when you’re not paying attention, you make decisions based on self-doubt, procrastination, fears, excuses, and feelings.
However, within any five second window, you have the choice to ether let self-doubt pull you back down the path or beat the habit of self doubt and take a step forward. “Once you understand the power to these five second decisions, you have the secret to changing absolutely everything.”
How does The Five Second Rule work?
It’s incredibly simple: the moment you are facing a decision and you are beginning to doubt yourself, count 5-4-3-2-1 in your head.
Don’t count up, because you can keep going – when you count backwards, your brain is allowed to shift gears; you can turn off the interior region of the brain where habits are encoded and self-doubt lives, and turn on your prefrontal cortex.
By counting, which is an action, you are already making a different decision than listening to self-doubt, and by counting you are moving in a direction that is opposite of self-doubt. As dumb as it may sound, the actual act of counting is incredibly powerful.
After Mel started implementing the five second rule, everything in her life changed. She was changing your decisions, five seconds at a time.
Nine years later, she and her husband have gone from facing divorce and bankruptcy to celebrating 21 years of marriage and launching two multi-million dollar companies together.
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Kevin Hall’s book, Aspire: Discovering Your Purpose Through the Power of Words, changed my life… and I don’t use those words lightly. There are very few events or books that have impacted my life in such a profound way.
When I was gifted a copy of Aspire, I was intending to leave the financial services industry – however, I devoured the book, and I came away re-committed and re-engaged. The book taught me just how powerful our words are, and how they can change the way we believe about ourselves and impact the world.
Embark on a Journey To Fulfill Who You Are Meant to Be
In Aspire, Kevin writes, “Understanding, as well as appreciating, our unique calling is critical. The two most important days of our life are the day we are born and the day we discover what we were born to do. That’s the day we catch the vision of who we are meant to be.”
There are two words that helped guide Kevin to his unique calling:
3 Questions That Will Guide You
Five Affirmations to Get Ollin
Ollin is a word from the Aztec calendar that means you have to move and act with all your heart. It engages your heart, and the more senses you can get engaged with an intention, goal, or dream, the more likely you are to achieve it.
As you embark on your journey, remember these eight words: Act as if it is impossible to fail.
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We’re suffering from a crisis of self-belief in which people limit themselves and what they’re capable of achieving.
The entrepreneurial world focuses heavily on casting a vision, as if your vision is the #1 reason you’re either going to succeed or fail. That vision is certainly important, but before you can have a vision, you need to believe you’re capable of achieving something.
Growing up, Dr. Colby Jubenville could barely see and he didn’t think he was enough. However, a support system that instilled resilience and perseverance helped him work through the adversity and restore his self-belief. In this conversation, we explore how he was able to make such a powerful transformation, adversity’s role in change, and why self-belief is so vital.
Colby is an accomplished author, international speaker, professor, business advisor, entrepreneur, and inventor. He holds an academic appointment at Middle Tennessee State University as Special Assistant to the Dean for Student Success and Strategic Partnerships in the College of Behavioral and Health Sciences.
When Colby was born with an eye condition, the doctors told his parents that he was technically blind and the best he could achieve was functional literacy.
Colby’s parents never believed that. Through continuous support, improvement, and struggle, Colby taught himself to see through the cobwebs in his eyes.
Colby’s coaches, teachers, and parents did three extremely important things to help restore his self-belief:
We live in a society where belief isn’t appreciated, intentional, or taught… but Colby believes that the two greatest opportunities we have in life are:
If you can help someone do both of those things, there’s nothing they can’t do.
People want personal change, and they’re not necessarily afraid of change – but they are afraid of the transition between their current reality and their desired reality. People tend to make that transition bigger in their head than it actually is, so how can we make that transition feel smaller?
Colby says changes comes from “Do. Feel. Think.”
“To really be an entrepreneur, you have learn how to use adversity to accelerate growth.”
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There are some people who say you’re either born an entrepreneur or you’re not – we reject that theory entirely here at The Impact Entrepreneur Show, and so does our returning guest, Tom Bilyeu, CEO of Impact Theory and Co-Founder of QuestNutrition.
Tom is passionate about pulling people out of “The Matrix” by helping them overcome the limiting beliefs that hold them back from expressing their true potential. And the belief that you are born one way, or not, is one of the most fundamentally limiting beliefs that you can have.
If you want to take advantage of your latent potential, it’s important to shift your beliefs. You can’t necessarily do everything – but you can learn how to do anything, if you put in the effort.
“I believe that humans are this big bundle of latent potential, and the meaning of life is to see how much of that potential you can actually transform into action and accomplishment.”
A Healthy Growth Mindset
Tom also experienced an important mindset shift related to money and growth.
As a kid, Tom promised himself he would be ripped and rich. He ultimately succeeded, but he realized that money wasn’t really what he wanted. Money can’t affect the way you feel about yourself.
“The moment of generating wealth in your life is like having the greatest bowl of ice cream you’ve ever had. It’s awesome… and then it will wear off more rapidly than you can imagine.”
However, money is still an incredibly powerful tool and its ability to facilitate is unparalleled. Bill Gates may actually cure malaria, but he’ll only be able to do it because he has access to massive resources.
By itself, money is inert... But once you have a mission, and build a business around that, the money becomes an incredibly empowering force.
The most important thing you can do before launching a new business or platform is finding your mission – your Why – so that you can use it as a filter to guide your strategy.
Conquering Your Fear
Many people don’t achieve their true potential, or even try, because they’re afraid. So many of us look up to high achievers and make excuses about why we’re not able to do as much.
But if you’re willing to put yourself on the path and do the hard work for years (or even decades), you can achieve the most extraordinary results. Most people are too afraid to suffer, give things up, and accept that long period of hard work.
Will you let fear prevent you from creating a massive impact?
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